2 Words You Must Avoid
There are words that help conversations with
others, and then there are the words
that cause trouble. The smart thing is to
avoid the bad words, and to use the good
ones.
NEVER SAY NEVER
The first word that you should avoid
when dealing with others is 'never'.
This word is all right when used in certain
contexts, but it can cause defensiveness,
resentment, and anger when used in others.
'You never treat me well. You never help
around the house. You never try hard. You
are never in a good mood.'
As soon as you put never in front of
statements like these, the other person
locks up. They don't want to listen to
anything else you have to say because
you have already upset them. When you
say 'you never', you are making a very
sweeping and deep statement. You are
generalizing about someone's entire
life. This is most likely not your
intention, but things aren't that
clear to those receiving the message.
YOU ALWAYS...
The next word is 'always'. Again, it
is harmless in some instances, and
damaging in others. It carries the same
consequences as 'never' did above.
'You are always crabby. You always do that.
You always give up. You are always
lazy.'
When you are trying to get a point across
to someone, using these words will make
that impossible. As soon as you make
one of these sweeping statements, the
other person folds up their arms and
their minds.
Remember that 'always' and 'never'
can cause harm when used the wrong
way. 'You never let me down. You always
make me happy.' Give these types a try,
and you'll find the right way to use
these powerful words.
by Jason M. Gracia - Motivation123™
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